As someone who was born mid-year (summer for Northern-Hemisphere readers), I love how, twice a year, I can take stock and reflect on the person I am, the person I have been, and the person I am trying to become.
New Year’s Resolutions get a bit of a bad rap, though sometimes justified, as there is so much external pressure to conform during this human-constructed time of year. But we are human and we have created this tradition in our search for meaning so, give in to this aspect of our nature, just like giving in to other parts of your nature have brought you here, to me.
We are not blank slates to be swiftly erased and reprogrammed, change for us takes time and unwavering intention. While we are more than the sum of our parts, these parts give us access to change. All of us are multifaceted and complex, but with careful understanding of ourselves and how all our pieces fit together, we can nurture and guide ourselves and our lives in the direction we wish.
What facets of your life no longer serve you? Or, what aspects of these facets need finer tuning? What do you want to learn this year? How do you want to change in order to grow more into the person you want to be?
And, where does kink fit into this for you?
I have personally striven to be more authentic and open and accepting of the importance kink plays in my personality and psyche. There are other things in my life that bring me as intense of a joy, excitement, and feeling of being present in the moment as kink, but they are not many.
Perhaps this year you will strive to bring a fantasy to reality. Perhaps you have brought it to reality already and it’s time to decide whether it is an activity to further pursue or it does not, in fact, remain best a private fantasy. Not all of our impulses need to be brought out into the light; many things our minds create do not translate well into the physical world. Perhaps you will strive to increase your intimacy with yourself and others, and kinks and fetishes that have been your long-time friends, delving deeper into your practice and self-exploration. Perhaps you feel that it is best to focus on other aspects of your life this year, knowing that the world of kink and wonder will still be here for you after your return.
Regardless, I wish you the best year in your self-growth and self-exploration and that your journey brings only good things to others..
Let’s all work to make a world that revolves around consent, openness, and welcomes that little bit of darkness in all of us!
Kisses,
Scarlett Kage
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